Uh-oh! It's time for another essay...
I'm sure many of you think you have one. Or maybe you've just used the term once or twice.
In your life, have you ever thought about the "one that got away"?
But not this chick. Nope. I just don't believe in it.
I hear it a lot, and I find it's mostly men who look back sadly about the one that got away. It's strange. Even an ex used to speak about the one that got away from him about ten years prior to me. Another guy was about to get married, yet called a different woman "the one that got away". A few of my buddies have said similar things.
I never know whether to smack them or feel sorry for them.
Think about it. These women didn't "get away" - they're gone for a reason. Something did not work. Labeling them as the ones who got away is saying that they're the ones you're meant to be with; saying they're "it" for you, the love of your life.
But no. They're not. Know why?
If they were right for you, they would've come back to you. And if you really believed in it, you would've eventually gotten them back one way or another. They didn't. You didn't. At some point the window of opportunity closes.
I've had exes and guys I briefly dated call me the "one that got away". And I HAVE gotten back together with an ex after half a year apart. But for all of em? I got away. And I got away because I wasn't "the one".
The "one that got away" only exists in fishing. But maybe that slimy bastard who wriggled off your hook just wasn't meant to be yours.
But don't fret. There's plenty of fish in the sea. And those things are bitin'.
(Trust me, enough dudes on that site have told me so. Ugh.)