Monday, August 30, 2010
I'm Not Unfaithful, But I'll Stray
A few months back, after a particularly emotional night out, my friend Maggie and I had a discussion about cheating. She made a point that I had never really thought of before - she said that cheaters (for the sake of our discussion, men) always cheated down.
What's cheating down? Well, it means that the cheater tends to stray with those who are less attractive or less of a "catch" than the person they already have. They cheat with someone less desirable. Seems silly, right? Doesn't that kind of defeat the purpose?
You'd think so. But I thought about it. Remembered all the people I knew who cheated. And it's true. The majority of them cheated on their awesome partners with less-than-awesome people.
There's a lot of reasons for it, I think. Number one is probably that some people can't handle having an attractive, likeable, or even successful partner. It makes them feel like less, in comparison, so they seek someone who will make them feel better about themselves. Kinda like a "hero complex".
We should all feel lucky when we're with someone great. Instead, a lot of people screw it up and "cheat down" or even "date down" with the next partner. Blind summabitches, y'are.
Along with that, for some damn reason, I keep getting into conversations about monogamy. Less and less folks believe it's possible to stay in a "happy", committed relationship with one person. I disagree, speaking only for myself.
So... you, my intelligent, good-looking and agreeable readers... What do you think about "cheating/dating down"? And do you believe in monogamy?
(Yeah, yeah... bitch got a little serious on ya today. Whoops.)