Monday, July 11, 2011

Burning Black Holes In Bad Memories


Years ago, when I was going through a(nother) rough patch, a woman at work sat me down and offered advice. Along with the advice, she said "We all feed off of drama. We feed off of our own drama, and the drama of other people."


I was sad to learn that she passed away recently, and I still find myself remembering those specific words she said. They've never left me.

In so many ways she was right. We do feed off of drama - the negative, the sad, the difficult. The more it takes control of us, the more we allow it to. And voyeurs love to watch it happen to others.

The blog has been a fairly prime example of that. On more than one occasion people thought they were passing on good advice by telling me to not bother with any positive posts. According to them, readers were only interested in the ones about struggles and depression; times I was hurt or completely lost.
 

Is that the truth? Maybe. Probably.

But I'm not where I was before. It's not all sunshine and lollipops (more humidity and beer bottles), but every moment is an improvement. I'm doing my best to shed the worries and Perpetual Doomsday Chick persona I had, because it needed to be left behind.

I'm ok. Better than before. I'm living, and I'm doing everything on my own terms. Ah, maybe on Daisy terms too. Fine.


So, for anyone that takes issue with happier (read: not so deppress-o) words and a lot less of my own personal drama tales - the internet's a big ol' place, full of emo kids to indulge you.

And hey, they'll even give you eyeliner tips and pictures of sad puppies.
 

Now that I've put this crap into your brain, realize that we don't need to feed off of each others drama, or our own.  It's a vicious cycle of bullshit, and I now have a strict Anti-Bullshit Policy. You can read the Terms & Conditions if you're inclined to do so.

Fine print's a bitch.  But you get the point.


Smile, folks. Hold hands, sing Kumbaya and share your beer with those that currently have none in their fridge.

Ahem.


21 comments:

ns said...

Why do I feel like you did a cartwheel down the porch?

Kris said...

Never been able to do a cartwheel in my life :(

Kurtys said...

I like this attitude! There is nothing wrong with positive energy and trying to look for the good. Those that say otherwise are just trying to keep you down so that they can feel that it's okay to be depress-o...

Kris said...

Truth! Misery loves company. THAT I know damn well.

Vern said...

Good for you! Life is too short and summer too sweet. That attitude will get you everywhere!

Kris said...

That's what I'm hopin' :) Thanks!

Mike D. said...

Great pictures Kris!

Kris said...

Thanks hun... can't take credit for 'em, as I only took one of them. A friend was having fun with his new phone app.

Anonymous said...

happy happy joy joy. kill it kris!

Wil said...

And on a happier note, how many people clicked on the second pic to make it bigger? Come on now, you know you did!

Kris said...

Anon - Consider it killed!

Wil - I didn't!

However... you left almost the same comment on a post that had beach pics about three years ago. Love it, Wil! Don't change.

krista zee said...

Good call Kris. You only have this one life- might as well make er a gooder!

Wil said...

I detect your sarcasm, I've been called out and I'm actually embarrassed.

Kris said...

What? No! There was no sarcasm. Promise.

Memphis Steve said...

People keep telling me they like "Angry Steve" when I blog. So for years I have given them "Angry Steve" in spades. Funny how when I'm just "calm philosophical Steve" they don't seem to read or comment, yet in real life people don't like Angry Steve and do like Normal Non-Psychotic Steve (calm Steve.) Sometimes we let the readers direct our blogs out of desire to give them what they want and be liked. But when we do that it ceases to really be our blogs and becomes something more like a job for which we aren't paid very well. So good for you for taking back your blog. I think I'm going to blogroll you because I like your attitude. And also because you look really good in a bikini and I'm a guy.

ghost said...

this post makes me feel like a bit of a prophet.

Kris said...

Cuz yer smart 'n awesome.

Danger Owl said...

Danger Owl likes the new mindset.

We are only what we choose to perpetuate both in mind and spirit. Danger Owl has seen your true spirit, and it isn't negative or depressed.

Shambled Rambler Brings Sunshine when she can. She should let herself do it, and allow other do it for her more often.

She owes it to herself.

For those around her and following her writings here who wish only to read about pain, and suffering and sadness. Please, don't encourage perpetuity in a state that the author so truly wishes to escape. She deserves better for giving you her soul.

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