For as long as I've been aware of things "they" say, the idea of people changing has always been a big debate. And the majority of the public seems to believe that people don't change - even so far as to say they can't.
I figured I was overdue for this rant to say that I disagree - change isn't only possible, it's likely.
To an extent.
Experience and a lifetime of over-analyzing everything has taught me that the core of a person doesn't change. Who we are, the very basic parts of us, will always be the same. That's our makeup. But circumstance and the ability to tweak our own thought processes means that we are able to change quite a bit of ourselves. Sometimes with intention, sometimes without it.
Knowing this, and truly believing it, has been the root of many huge decisions for me. It's why I often give people, situations and relationships multiple chances, and hope that others do the same for me. As I've changed a lot in many key ways while staying myself, it's important to recognize that others can do the same. That's what I believe.
In the interest of disclosure, I admit that doing this and living my life that way has caused a great deal of pain at times. That's due to people whose changes were negative, or those who just changed in a different direction than I did. And from sometimes hoping for changes that never came at all. But I do it willingly, to eliminate the "what if's" that can make us all crazy. Sometimes it's worth it, and maybe that's enough.
So for those those that are set in their beliefs that people are incapable of change, you may need to open your eyes a bit more. Chances are, you aren't the same as you once were either.
Agree or disagree?